![]() In all cases when the other person is staring into your eyes, they are trying to capture your attention and hold it. This can be a seductive glance, a completely mesmerized fascination, or an angry glare. But even in these situations the back-and-forth action means they feel trapped in a situation from which they cannot escape. If the other person is barefoot and it is hot outside, their movement could also mean their feet are burning or that they have injured one foot. Think of a cat trapped in a cage at the zoo, pacing back and forth. It could mean they just want to leave.Īnother way we use this back-and-forth movement is to find a better position to observe from, but for some reason we don’t want to leave the spot we have taken. This back-and-forth motion is often called “the pee pee dance” but it doesn’t always mean the person doing the dance needs to find the bathroom. It could also mean they have an urgent need or task. This means the other person wants to leave the vicinity as soon as possible. If they are hunkered down, leaning forward, or reclining backwards think of someone who has just been pummeled to near-unconsciousness in a fist fight. If they are alert, with head held high and shoulders drawn back, think of a Venus Flytrap waiting to strike. You should look at how the other person is holding his or her head and shoulders when they have their hands in their lap. They bring their arms and legs close to their bodies as if they are battening down the hatches, waiting for a storm to pass, and you may not even know a storm is raging or about to start up. It can also mean “I am controlling myself and do not want you to know what I am feeling.” People who are trying to hide their state of mind often become rigid and close in. The hands-in-lap pose is sometimes used by effective therapists as a disarming mechanism, removing a sense of intimidation from their conversations with patients.īut there is a darker side to the hands-in-lap pose. However, people often take this position when they are feeling tired and listless, too, so it does not necessarily mean they are being fearful or submissive. It is a very subtle, modest body position, almost as if to say, “I am feeling vulnerable before your power I am not a threat please do not hurt me.” Women and children assume this position more often than men. It is a very subtle way of taking control of the situation you are confronted with, all without having to say a word. In a group situation when the leader assumes this pose it means “look at me respect me fear my power if you get out of line”.Ĭhildren learn quickly to settle down and focus their attention on adults who assume this pose. It is also a commanding, authoritative stance. It is a way for the body to let off a little energy without actually doing anything. It takes a lot of energy for the body to maintain this rigid state. However, if you hold this pose too long you start to look silly and you’ll feel silly. This stance is very confrontational and can be quite intimidating. ![]() You are more likely to use the Angry Superman stance when you stand in someone’s way, almost as if to suggest to them, “I am invulnerable and you cannot go any further”. This can be a resolute pose, where someone is about to start an important or lengthy task and they are organizing their thoughts, or it can be an angry pose where someone means to put a stop to something. This is the classic “Superman pose” and it means “I am ready to take action”. It helps to imagine what the other person’s posture might mean in an extreme situation where they are exaggerating their stance or energy. We often use the same signals in different situations. Here are several ways you can read body language and be reasonably sure of what the other person is feeling.Īnd remember that: body language tells you more about what a person is feeling than about what they are thinking.Īlso, if you are not certain about one body language sign then look for others. The kind of non-verbal conversation you can have with another person is very short and to the point, although for most people the signals are not entirely clear. It has been said that you can have an entire conversation just through body language, although the notion that 97% of our communication is non-verbal is actually a myth. Here are 10 body language signals everyone should learn to recognize. Reading body language is an important skill in business, social, and intimate situations. ![]()
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